Using your hand for sexual pleasure can become intense and gratifying experience for both of you. Many lesbian partners like practicing fisting, though experimenting with fisting is not the same as usual penetration. But if your patient enough to learn the art of fisting, you and your partner may derive enormous pleasure from pleasing each other.
*How to start
1. Communicate beforehand
If you never discussed your sexual preferences it's a high time to do it. You partner may be curious enough to share your sexual whims and try something new if you tell him about your desires. Communication is also very important during fisting - thus you can tell your partner about sensations you experience. If you won't like or feel uncomfortable about something you can ask to slow down or stop.
2. Take all the necessary things
Though main thing you need for good fisting is a lot of care and patience, you may need to to have some other things handy. First of all, you may take use of lubricant- no matter how wet your partner is - extra lube will only help for smoother insertion of the hand. You can choose either water-based or silicone-based lubricant for this purpose.
For safer sex you can use latex glove. Make sure you cut your nails short as even minor scratches to the sensitive tissue of vagina may be very disturbing for your partner and her health.
3. Exercise relaxation
It is essential for your partner to feel relaxed during insertion of your hand. It may be difficult to do as she may become too focused and concerned about the experience. The best way to ease the tension is to ask her breathing deeply. Another way to relax vaginal muscles is to ask your lover squeeze her PC muscle for a while and relax when you are inserting your hand.
*Fisting step by step:1. Arouse your partner
Never think about main dish before she gets really aroused. Do whatever brings her ultimate pleasure:tease her nipples, stimulate her clitoris with hands and lips, massage her body and etc. This will ensure she is relaxed enough and make her lubricate that is very important for penetration.
2. Insert your fingers step by step
There is no need to penetrate with your hand at once. The better way is to work out her vagina slowly. First, insert one or two fingers and gently stroke inside stimulating her G-spot, then try the same with three fingers. Be receptive to her reaction: if she is relaxed and comfortable - go on, if she is not feeling good- simply slow down or stop.
3. Shape your hand
Basically, you need to form your hand in such a way so that it would get as slim as possible. Cup your fingers tight and keep them close to each other. Your fingers should be straight.
4. Smooth insertion
In order to make it smoother, position your hand so that your knuckles would be at the bottom of the vagina. Gently and slowly insert your hand rotating it around her opening. be careful when letting your knuckles in-this is the widest part of your hand so you may need extra lube and carefulness.
5. Stimulation
After you inserted your hand there is no need to think that now you can do it rougher. Many women enjoy the sensation of fullness in their vagina and slight in-out motion can be quite enough. You may also expand your hand and rotate it a bit adding to back forward motion.
6. Make your partner active
Fisting is not only about one partner being receiving and the other one giving. You can agree with your partner hint you on better stimulation. She can move her hips while you keep your hand still to set the rhythm that feels good to her. You also need your partner's active participation when you insert and pull out your hand, asking her to breath and relax.
Keep in mind that not all partners find fisting appealing, but if you managed to derive maximum pleasure, this can become the most intimate and intense experience for both of you .